Have you ever wondered to yourself if giving 100% to something you believe in is ever worth it? Even if it means passing the safety limits of prudence?
Lately I have gotten well meaning friends tell me that in whatever we pursue, we should not commit all of us into said pursuit lest we be take advantage of or fail. That way we still have some “back up” of sorts.
Specifically this advice was given to me with regards to relationships.
To be real honest, while I appreciate the practicality of this advice, I don’t think I ever found it relevant in the way I entered my relationship with her.
This is in large part due to the fact that I always believed in giving my significant other nothing but total commitment as isn’t a real relationship built on efforts and a willingness to go through what it takes to make it happen?
I always believed that loving another isn’t so much of an epiphany but more so a decision made to do so. Correct me if I am wrong as perhaps I was too dense to ever received such a eureka! moment. 🤣
Seriously, when I love someone else, I am giving them the proverbial key to my heart of which I have no fears in doing so because:
- I trust her.
- It’s also my way of demonstrating my love to her.
So by entrusting her, she can choose to either build me up or completely tear me down. The choice is hers to make and, I choose to trust that she will always choose the former.
To the outsider, this might seem like a huge gamble but isn’t life a gamble to begin with?
I fondly remember the words of Inazo Nitobe, author of Bushid who said : “Beneath the instinct to fight there lurks a diviner instinct to love.”
Therefore with love, I am most willing to take this gamble because even if all else fails, I can at least look deep into my reflection in the mirror and say that inasmuch as I am a Martial Artist, I too am a lover who above it all, is blessed to have the courage to be able to love as hard as he fights…..